Chatting with a coworker over some handsewing the other day. He took ballet in college, even some pointe, so he’s my go-to work ballet chat person.
Told him about the rough class I had the other day. With the correction I didn’t understand, and how I was thinking I might have to find a class where the teacher can physically correct me, like, push the offending body part back or place an arm, or whatever.
And he was like, “No! Nononono. A teacher should Never touch you.”
I was like, um, what?
And he was like, “A teacher should use words, or demonstrate, or have someone else demonstrate, but a teacher should never manipulate your body.”
And I was like, uh, really?!
And he continued, very adamant, “If a teacher pushes you or pulls you, how can they know if they’re doing the right thing for your body? They can’t feel what you feel. You could get hurt! Plus you need to be in control of your body! Figuring something out for yourself and then doing it with your body will make it stick, just passively being put into a correct position teaches you nothing!”
So I was like, wow. Dang. That’s, like, something to think about.
And then another mind boggler after ballet class:
Smirnoff is double-caning it through the lobby on the way out to his car, stops by me and says, “Good! We had a good class today. Last class was not so good but today! We had a good class!”
So I said, yes, it had been a good class, hard work, did some neat moves, more fun than last class.
And he said, “My Dear, do you know why that last class was not so good?”
And I though, ‘me, right? It’s ’cause of me?’
He said, “it was [that new girl who is so slim and pretty]. She was the weak link in the class. Because she doesn’t try. She was confused with the step, but she wouldn’t try. And when people don’t try, I have nothing to work with.”
And, Gentle Reader, I had two simultaneous thoughts:
1) That I was feeling jealous of this girl, and that I can stop now. The Adult Beginner has struggled with some petty and not very adult feelings when this girl receives a lot of attention in class, and everything she does looks lovely, even when it’s not fully pulled-up or straight-kneed or pointed.
But it’s true, she will hang back and not do the things she doesn’t get.
I know that if there’s one thing I’m good at in ballet, and it may be the only thing, it’s trying stuff. I might not get it, but I’ll damn well do something vaguely resembling it, and maybe that is as valuable as natural loveliness.
2) My poor teacher! Sheesh! This man’s life work cycles around women and their fragile little egos! He’s not just dealing with our natural abilities and our level of ballet knowledge, he’s also got to get a whole class full of women to not self-destruct! Poor bastard!
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